Thursday, 16 June 2016

Am I a parent or a child? - dancing with a toddler

Arthurwears, toddler dancing, toddler dancing on feet
Arthur dancing on my feet

Every now and then in life we have those moments when we don't know whether we feel more like a child or a parent.
This was one of those moments...

Looking down at this tiny human, standing on my feet and dancing - laughing and swaying whilst walking my footsteps. Am I really at that stage of my life where I am paving the path (literally in this case) for another little person? Where they will look up to me, physically and metaphorically, watching and waiting to see what I will do next so that they can follow?
It doesn't seem two minutes ago that it was me standing on my grandad's feet as he tried to teach me to dance, and if he were here now I'm pretty sure I wouldn't feel too old to have that dance again. I remember being that child and I still feel how I felt then - especially in this moment.
At what point in our lives do we cross that line from being a child to being an adult? Is it really as simple as turning 18? Is it absolutely finalised once we have our own child? Or can we spend our whole life being both - choosing appropriate moments for each?
Suddenly I found myself asking all these questions, reminiscing about my own childhood and those carefree days - all triggered by my little toddler dancing on my feet in the same way I used to.... And then I saw this...Arthur dancing with a baby doll on his own feet ... And I realised - the difference between me as an adult and me as a child: I find these moments and I start to look back at who I was...Children use these moments to look ahead at who they can be. That, right there, is the answer.

arthurwears, toddler dancing, toddler dancing with doll

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  1. I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I forget how old I am and I still feel like I am in my early 20s!

    It's very true what you say though, parents reminisce about their childhood and children certainly do look ahead. My eldest is desperate to grow older and be a big boy whereas I just want him to stop growing!

    Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS and I hope to see you back again next week.

  2. Aww this is a lovely post.
    I feel exactly the same, I'm absolutely both, or certainly embrace my inner child sometimes anyway!
    Sarah xx

  3. That's so funny you wrote this, I was literally having this conversation with my husband the other day about when do we cross the line from childhood to adulthood, because I really feel like my childhood never ended, I'm such a big kid haha! xx

  4. Lovely answer. My mum told me she still doesn't feel like a grown up so I guess I'll be waiting a while. Sometimes I can't believe I'm married with a kid. Loving the new blog look.


    1. Thanks so much, yes I know exactly what you mean!! I'll probably still feel like that when I'm 70!

  5. Letting out my inner child is something I look forward to on a daily basis! Being able to play cars, race around the house and be superheroes, it's so great to be involved with their imagination. Although I feel like he is growing at an ever speedy pace, I wish he was little forever and we could hide in blanket forts eating ice cream for dinner!

    Jordanne ||

  6. I don't know the answer but I'm pretty certain my husband is still a child ;) Dancing with children is always fun! #KCACOLS

  7. That is adorable! I know what you mean though, I just turned 30 and I've no idea how I got this old!! #KCACOLS

  8. Sometimes, it's just great to forget who you are and behave like a child again. I would love to be 5 years old again and have no 'big person' dilemna ��

  9. Beautiful post and one that I really empathise with. I became a mum at 19 and sometimes I still feel like a child/young adult even though I'm almost 22 and have a toddler! x great post x #KCACOLS

  10. Such lovely photos in this post! And I'm not convinced we ever really grow up, my Mum still tells me she doesn't feel like a real grown up! x #KCACOLS


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