Thursday, 8 March 2018

You misunderstand why I blog


Being a blogger has been a real eye opener as to the thoughts and opinions of others (some) who don't blog... The keyboard warriors who tap away furiously with all their might, as if you could feel the physical force of their words... the unknowing trolls who spurt intentional typos such as 'blagger'... and the acquaintance who pops on their judgy pants and thinks its fair game because of what you do... which is ironic really, as typically bloggers are the ones penning their thoughts, feelings and opinions and sharing them with their audience...aren't they?


Personally, I am not really what most people imagine a social influencer to be - I'm no extrovert, I am quite a private person, and I don't really 'do' selfies. I've never found it very easy to let people in - although I've always wanted those kind of friendships, I usually make a run for it before anyone gets too close. I'd spent so many years putting my career first and not really having any free time that I never really had time to make new friends - I always err on the side of caution when it comes to keeping in touch, or arranging meet ups just in case I'm 'too much' and suddenly I'm a nuisance...and so I have spent a good few years now staying a little 'cool' and a little guarded, because if you don't really let people get to know you, then you don't have to take any rejections too personally. 

None of this was ever an issue for me until I stopped working to have my first child and suddenly, not only did I not have my job as an excuse, I also had a child who I needed to set an example for. 

I wanted to challenge myself to become a little bit more open about my thoughts, feelings and experiences. 

I wanted to give myself something to do other than just being a 'mummy' - something which would keep my brain working, give me something to work towards and also hopefully help others. 

I wanted somewhere that I could document my ideas, experiences and the lives of my children. 

So I blogged. 

Not everything. Contrary to what many believe blogging doesn't always involve talking about everything, even if what you DO read about makes it seem that way. Just enough to push my boundaries...and this right now is teetering on the line for me.

I really didn't care so much if anyone read it at the beginning. I didn't set out to make money and I didn't expect to be sent things in return for my opinions, my writing and my promotion...but now I'm here 2 years down the line... it's nice that people take the time to read my posts, take the time to comment and take the time to message me about it. It's also nice to feel that the hard work I put into my blog behind the scenes (and it IS hard work) pays off in other ways. That I've been able to try new products for myself or for my children that I otherwise would never have been able to afford having made that decision to spend my time raising my family rather than building my career. It's nice to realise that in trying to be a little bit more 'open' by blogging and writing, I've found doors have opened to some lovely opportunities along the way. It's also nice to know that because of this journey I have also been able to support and promote other mums who have started businesses and are working hard towards their own goals...some of them I now count as friends. 

...But I didn't start any of this just to 'get stuff'...'to brag'...'to show off'...'to preach'...'to blag'...to promote an 'agenda'...

Blogging isn't just sitting behind a screen, barely tapping out a few words every now and then having something to show for it...or expecting something to show for it. It is hours of research, crowdsourcing, planning and documenting before even pressing those keys. It is meta data and alt tagging, back links, SEO and domain authority. Editing photos, editing posts...and all of that before you've even published or thought about the social media promotion - which has to be planned meticulously to make the most of the right times for the right engagement to stand a chance of it being seen by the right people...providing the algorithms haven't suddenly changed again since your last post (I'm talking about YOU Facebook....and Instagram....). It isn't about getting 'free stuff'. None of this stuff is free when you work out the hours of work involved in creating content in return...And all of that with a  baby and toddler in tow. 

I don't know whether the opinions of some come from a place of envy and jealousy...or an idea of "who do they think they are" (bloggers that is) the thing is, there will always be jealous people. There will always be those who look at others and instead of thinking 'good on you' and helping to raise you up a little further will just automatically think 'how dare you' and attempt to bring you down. You don't need those people. 

If blogging has taught me anything it's that there are some amazing, supportive and positive people out there who WILL raise you up, who will smile when they read your posts and who will do a silent little clap for you every now and then when things are going well. They are the ones I think about when I write my posts. 

It's not always the people you expect who offer that support...but then I suppose the same can usually be said for the ones who don't. 

Sarah x

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31 comments:

  1. I love this and so so true. All the people that roll their eyes at the word "blogger" but so much more goes into it. I've been running my blog for 2 years and still ave a lot to learn. One thing is that there is a fab community out there and luckily I've not encountered any of the bitchiness that some seem to suffer!

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    1. Yes I have to admit, the blogging community has been so supportive, it's those who don't understand what blogging is who don't really get it I think

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  2. There are a lot of misconceptions about Bloggers ☺️ #KCACOLS

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    1. It probably doesn't help that there are some 'famous' bloggers who do things that make everyone look bad as that's what a lot hear about

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  3. Great post. I started my blog to record memories for my boys and only went self hosted two months ago after three years lol

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    1. Ahh good for you! Good luck with the rest of your blogging journey

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  4. There is so much more to blogging than people realise - noone seems to care properly, don't see it as a proper job until they want something. I started writing as a hobby to fill time and it has evolved from there... I now look after several blogs. You keep doing your thing and definitely get out there an embrace the blogging world :) Sim

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    1. Thank you...it's a hobby with added benefits I guess!

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  5. I was really scared to share my blog with anybody at first and till find is super weird to think people are actually reading my ramblings willingly haha, and it’s been over two years now! People love to judge without truly realising the work that it entails #KCACOLS

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    1. Oh me too! And then not long after I was a bit more public with it someone reported my original Facebook page and I lost everything and had to start again. Onwards and upwards right?

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  6. Great post! I could not agree more with you on so many points! Yeah blogging is not about showing off or getting free stuff! And you can get to meet so many fab people. But I think a lot of people who don't know anything about it still have the cliches because of what they see in the media unfortunately... I say as far as you like what you are doing, nothing else matters #kcacols

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    1. Agreed. There are a few bad stories in the media that often but everyone else in a bad light in the eyes of those who are ignorant to what it actually is

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  7. I think there's less judgment on bloggers as there is on 'influencers'. A friend who monopolises the conversation (all about her) when we get together, was criticising her friend who is an 'influencer' because he didn't really know about the industry he was promoting (that she worked in) and made it all about him (yes, the irony). I just see it as old people not seeing the new wave. As long as you =like doing what you do, who cares what others think?

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    1. Ha that made me laugh! It's definitely something we should try and understand more, pretty sure my own children will be living full force in the digital age I was to be in there too so I can help guide them

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  8. Amen to this.
    So many people are disillusioned about blogging, it has absolutely nothing to do with just 'free stuff' - nothing is ever free. The people I've met through my blog are more valuable than any products we've ever received.

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  9. As long as you are happy who cares. I blog for me. To get out my stories. I am just starting so I feel like it is my baby. #kcacols

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    1. Good luck with it. I think you have to enjoy it to do it otherwise it takes up too much time!

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  10. Your 2nd to last paragraph resonates with me. Because I write for me and my readers. There are those who will support and you push you along, bring you up again. And that's why I blog in the main! #kcacols

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    1. Yes!! It can be hard sometimes to push the negative opinions of others out of mind when writing, but it helps to remember the ones who really are rooting for you x

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  11. Yes yes yes. This is spot on! Last night I showed some family members my new shoes and before “they are nice” or “where are they from” I got “did you get them for free?” So frustrating! X

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  12. I've been blogging for 5.5 years now and the opinion on blogging as a career has changed immensely. I used to get eye rolls and comments like "but it's not a real job is it?". However, now I get so many questions and people are very curious - and generally positive! xx

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  13. A great post! Ive only been doing it 2 months but a lot of people say to me 'wow you got that sent out for free'. I said, well, technically no. Ive spent an hour taking photos, then time editing them and then time writing the blog post so technically a good couple of hours work!

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  14. I love this and you’re so right on so many point. I hate when people make assumptions. Thank you for linking up with #kcacols and we hope to see you next time.

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    1. Thank you - yes so many assumptions! I know people assume about lots of things they are ignorant about but blogging does seem a popular one for some to be vocal about

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  15. Great post. I was the same as you totally thrown into my job and then suddenly I was a mum. I blog for many of the same reasons but I mostly started to capture our memories

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    1. A blog is a great way to keep a sort of online diary isn’t it? I never actually managed to keep a paper one after the first year so at least I have some stuff recorded for when I eventually lose my memory lol

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  16. Most people I know tend to mock the idea of me blogging so I don’t really mention it to any of them anymore. I enjoy it and it’s a great way to document our lives :) great post! #KCACOLS

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  17. Everyone loves what you guys are usually up too.
    This type of clever work and exposure! Keep up the good works guys I've incorporated you guys to my
    own blogroll.

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  18. I love this. We all blog for very different reasons and it’s often something others don’t understand. #kcacols

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  19. The 'free stuff' comments always make me laugh...if only they knew!! Thanks for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime last week!

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